I had extreme nosebleeds (gushing, 2 hours long, etc) throughout childhood and prolonged dental bleeding. When I was 12 I got my period and it was a nightmare from the start. 10 days long, clots, debilitating cramps all kept me from school and activities every month. I was put on the pill at age 16 and told I was anemic. (I never had any fingernails and ate ice constantly, not realizing the correlation!)

After childbirth I bled heavily for 7 weeks. I loved how I felt when I was off the pill, so I tried to stay off after my daughter was born. I got my period back when she was 10 months old, and it got progressively worse throughout her toddlerhood. I had 4 unexplained miscarriages, and went to 3 different doctors, complaining of my bleeding. One female doctor told me, “That’s why they call it The Curse”, and did no testing. I finally got a GYN to take me seriously when I told her how much blood I was loosing (an average period is 30ml of blood – the entirety of a menstrual cup. I was emptying my overflowing cup every 60-90 min for the first day or two, and every 3 hours for the remaining 6-8 days). When she did a CBC my hGb was 5.5.

I was referred to an HTC, but I had a hard time getting them to take me seriously as well. I begged them to run a platelet aggregation when nothing else showed up, and it revealed a platelet disorder called Aspirin-like Defect. Even after diagnosis, I had a difficult time obtaining treatment. I could not get my HTC to give me a referral to an ENT so I could obtain a cauterization for my daily 1-2 hr nosebleeds that had been going on for over a month. I also could not get any treatment offered to me except for birth control and Stimate. Stimate did nothing for my bleeding; I bled so heavily on the Mirena IUD that I expelled the first one after 2 weeks. I tried that regime for 5 months and could no longer take the daily bleeding and side effects of Stimate, so I opted for a hysterectomy at the age of 38.

3 weeks after I was diagnosed, my then-5 year old daughter was, as well. She has random bleeds now that can be managed, but I know what she will face when she hits puberty. When I became an advocate for her, I understood how much had been lacking in my own care and treatment options. Her story will never be like mine. She will receive specific treatment for the actual disorder she has – not just birth control. She is 7.5 now, and I hope research will catch up in time for her first period.

Thank you for creating this space and drawing very necessary attention to women with bleeding disorders!!